In summer 2015, I learned that the relationship I have been in for years is commonly characterized as a so-called ‘AMWF’ relationship online. On the very same day I found a big community consisting of blogs with Western females sharing their experiences with their East-Asian partners, boyfriends, husbands and their families. They turned out to live all around the world, in North America, Europe and even more turned out to be expats living in East Asia.
Many of them use the ‘AMWF’ tag to be found online easier by like-minded people. ‘AMWF’ is the short form for ‘Asian Male and a Western Female’ and is used to describe a love relationship consisting of – yes – an Asian guy and a Western girl. But what exactly does ‘AMWF’ describe?
My Korean Husband does not use it. My Hong Kong Husband, Yamanashi Kei and Greece Meets Taiwan have already written about it. Many use it as a tag, so does Speaking of China, Marta lives in China as well as I too – just to name a few. They all use the tag ‘AMWF’ on their blog posts for many different reasons. They use it to make clear that their relationship consists of an Asian dude and a Western chick, try to make it easier for others to find like-minded people or try to promote interracial relationships and so get rid of untenable stereotypes.
A few girls writing blogs about their interracial/intercultural/international relationships put out a statement to try to justify their usage of the ‘AMWF’ label. Ever since I carefully read them, I learned why people like to use the tag – or do not, but I never found out how it could actually be defined as a term.
Ever since then I try to find out what ‘AMWF’ actually means. Aside from the acronym for ‘Asian Male and a Western (some might say White) Female’ I have been struggling with the term itself as it is lacking a comprehensive definition. I have been thinking about for which reasons a relationship could be labeled as ‘AMWF’.
Is it about looks? Is it enough that he looks East Asian?
Is it about culture? Does he have to practice or mainly live after an East Asian culture or philosophy?
Is it about origin? Does he have to be born in faraway East-Asia grow up there?
Do we have to speak different native languages?
Do we (the Western females) have to live their heritage with them (Asian males)?
Do we have to live in East Asia?
How ‘AMWF’ is a relationship when both grew up in the same country and more or less were raised with the same morals?
Do we just use it to make it easier for people to find us, a pair of different looking individuals?
To tell you the truth, I did not think much about when I started to use the tag. Some of the blogs
The girls of the blogs I follow date East Asian guys from different backgrounds. They got to know them in their home countries and live now there with them. Or they migrated to or were already born in a Western country (or South Africa) and grew up there. They experience their cultures with each other or not. Is the only thing they have in common their looks? Do black hair and dark brown teddy bear eyes qualify you to enter the ‘AMWF’ club?
What is ‘AMWF’ to you? What would you say makes a relationship ‘AMWF’? Is it about looks, culture or origin? I would love to hear your opinions so I can finally come up with a clear definition for myself.
My Korean Husband – Why we don’t label ourselves AMWF
My Hong Kong Husband – AMWF的標籤 – the AMWF label
Yamanashi Kei – The AMWF label
Greece Meets Taiwan – The AMWF-tag
Xiananigans – Labels: The good, bad and ugly
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