Just something off topic post: I have not been online much the last two weeks. Unfortunately my grandma had a heart attack and died by the end of last week. I am glad that she did not feel any pain and fell asleep peacefully.
Already decades ago, my grandma made clear how she wanted her body to be handled after death. She wanted a small service with only her close family and friends, be cremated and buried next to her husband. Of course, I will make everything according to her wishes. While my mom took care of most of the organization, I asked Mr. Panda if he knew how his parents wanted their funerals to be handled. He did not, as they never talked about it. Maybe it might be bad luck to talk about it, but I really wanted to know if they had special wishes.
Of course that is a legitimate, but sad, question. Funeral traditions in Austria and China are a little different, as funeral customs are Roman Catholic oriented, while Chinese mom is a believing Buddhist (I do not know about Chinese dad for sure though) and might not know anything about Austrian traditions as she never attended a funeral here.
And, just in case, I wanted to know how Mr. Panda’s parents thought about the whole process. Whether of a serious disease or an accident, it can happen so fast and sudden any time. I wanted to know how they thought about it, just in case. All the more because they only have us here in Austria and someone of us here will have to handle everything. Only we know about the possibilities and German (somehow most Austrian businesses are not capable of providing important information in English).
Long story short, I finally gathered my courage asked Chinese mom how she wanted to be handled after she died, whether she wanted her body burried or cremated, in Hong Kong or in Austria. Gladly, she was open to the topic, and her answer was less complicated than I thought: ‘What’s modern when I die.’ While Chinese dad went back to Honk Kong, she wants to stay here in Austria with her children, her new Austrian daughter and grandchildren, and therefore we also want to be able to help her as much as we can. And as he tries to help her family as much as possible, it is only fair to know about her wishes as well.
That said, I hope that my Austrian and Chinese family will be healthy and happy for a long time from now on.